If you scold your teenager in a public place, you can be sure of one thing: He or she will not be happy about it. Teenagers are very independent. They are still children in some respects, but they are also very much like adults. They do not like to be told what to do and they do not like to be embarrassed. For many of them, the way that they look to others is the most important thing in their lives. They do countless things to make themselves look good. A scolding that embarrasses them could be seen as a terrible slight, even if it was warranted.
What Do You Do Now?
After the event has taken place, the best thing that you can do is to sit down with your teen and talk about what happened. You may want to apologize for the scolding, even if you know that the teen deserved it. If you say that you are sorry for the way that it made them look but that you did not have any other choice, they will feel like you are showing them respect. You can then talk about whatever led up to it. Remember to listen. If you listen and you do not just talk, feelings of mutual respect will grow.
Establish Clear Rules
You then need to establish clear rules and boundaries. Show your teen that you would never have needed to scold him or her if certain things had not transpired. The teen may not even realize what was done. If you create a set of rules that you both understand, the teen will have some power to reduce future incidents.
Should You Refrain From Scolding Your Child?
However, it is important to note that you should not refrain from scolding your teen when it is needed. Teens are still growing up and learning and you need to guide them. You can have a huge influence on the rest of their lives, and it starts when they are young. Scolding itself is not a bad thing as long as you show respect and you ensure that both parties understand the rules.
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